BWF002 -What is your unique driving force?
How do you make things happen?
The next step to achieving change is clearly identifying for yourself WHY AND WHAT you want to change.
What will change bring you? What will be different?
You need to find your UNIQUE DRIVING FORCE.
Knowing what this is for you will keep you MOTIVATED.
Most likely you are not exercising enough or not at all, not eating the right food, you feel you are getting older and not don't know where to begin to change things.
So apart from all that, what has really brought you here? Telling yourself you need to exercise or need to change your diet will not keep you working at it.
Why are you looking for change? What do you want to improve? What is your goal?
When you have clearly identified your DRIVING FORCE you will have powerful motivation to move forward and keep going. So...
WHAT DOES YOUR DRIVING FORCE LOOK LIKE? WHAT DO YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE?
Sometimes you might have more than one goal or you might need to break your goal into stages. Often one goal will lead on to others or a significant event will lead to setting new goals.
It may be a small goal or a very large one.
"No goal is too big - you just might need to start smaller to achieve it."
In 2014 I turned 50. Nearly one month to the day after I turned 50, I returned to martial arts training.
Why? Because I didn't want to be old. Because I didn't want to be limited by a number. Because I wanted to challenge myself. To prove I could. To be strong and able to do whatever i wanted to do for as long as I could. But it wasn't really that simple.
At that point, I hadn't trained in martial arts for about 3 years but I had recommenced going to the gym a couple of times a week so felt reasonably fit.
Even though I had done martial arts before, this time I would be going to a new gym that I hadn't trained at before, new people and at the time I wasn't sure if I could do it. I agonized over the decision for a couple of weeks. Was I really too old or not? Did they have other people my age training there? Would I just embarrass myself? What made it even harder was the expectation I placed on myself because of my rank. I was already a black belt so I would be entering a new dojo where I knew no-one to train wearing a black belt already- I felt self-conscious and so scared I would make an idiot of myself and be not worthy of the belt I wore. I felt more nervous than when I had first started 11 years earlier as a total newbie!
In the end, I really so wanted to train, my driving force was to prove to myself that I could do it.
I reminded myself I WAS a black belt, that I had no limitations just like it said on my black belt certificate and that I should just get that Gi on and go to training.
You know what? Once I got there and was welcomed by the instructor and the class started, I knew I was in the right place. I had forgotten how much I loved it and how empowering training was. I was back!
I had not let my fears win. Age was not a barrier. I could do it. My fitness level wasn't quite there and my skills were somewhat lacking but, just like riding a bike, I knew they would return, all that was needed was practice. I had won and the self-confidence gained was immense. I had re-committed to my martial arts/life journey to continue to try to be the best person I can be.
I have since achieved the rank of 1st degree black belt and am in training to complete my 2nd degree grading, the 'martial arts marathon'.
So, one goal leads to the next and the next and others along the way.
WHAT WILL MOTIVATE YOU?
Anything is possible.
Write it down. Break it up into smaller goals. What will happen when you achieve it? How will your life change? Visualise it.
Let me know in the comments and perhaps we can help you put a plan in place to achieve it.